When the Sin Was Done to You

"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." — Psalm 147:3

Read This Carefully

This lesson is for people who were harmed. Read it slowly, because getting it wrong in either direction does real damage.

Here is the principle:

The sin that creates an unholy soul tie does not have to be consensual.

It frequently is. But it does not have to be. The only thing required to form the tie is the presence of sin between you and another person.

So if you were abused — sexually, physically, or otherwise — a tie may exist. Not because of anything you did. Because a sin was committed, and you were where it happened.

What This Does Not Mean

Be absolutely clear, because this is where people get wounded by teaching like this.

You are not being blamed. What was done to you was not your sin. It was entirely and only the sin of the person who did it. Nothing here transfers one particle of responsibility onto you.

You are not being told you invited it. You did not.

You are not being told to repent of it. You do not repent of what was done to you. There is nothing to repent of.

What you are being told is something else entirely, and it is meant as good news: there may be a tie, and it can be broken, and you can be free of it.

Why This Matters So Much

This explains something that has tormented survivors for as long as there have been survivors.

If you were once in a relationship with someone who abused or controlled you, you may still feel their influence even after they are no longer in your life — even after they have died.

You left. You moved. You built a new life. And somehow they are still there. You still hear their voice when you make a decision. You still feel the shape of what they wanted. You still flinch at things they taught you to flinch at.

You have probably concluded this is psychological damage that you will simply carry.

That lingering control is a spirit gaining access through the unholy soul tie.

Which means it is not permanent. It is not your personality. It is not something you must accept as the price of what happened.

It is a door, and doors can be closed.

Point to Ponder

You have carried them for years and thought it was damage you would never be rid of. It may be a door instead — and doors close.

Verse to Remember

"He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds." — Psalm 147:3

Question to Consider

Whose influence do I still feel in my life even though they are long gone?

Today's Practice

Add to your soul tie list the people who sinned against you.

Anyone who abused you sexually, physically, or emotionally. Anyone who controlled or manipulated you. Anyone who took something from you by force or coercion.

You are not confessing these. You are identifying doors.

Then, for each, write down what you still carry from them:

Their voice in my head. The fear they installed. What they taught me to believe about myself. The way I still brace when someone raises their voice.

That list is not a list of your flaws. It is an inventory of what came through a door.

If this lesson has opened something painful, please do not carry it alone. Tell someone — a pastor, a counselor, a trusted friend. God works through people, and this is not material to process in isolation.

Prayer

Father, things were done to me that I did not choose and could not stop.

I know You do not blame me for them. I know they were not my sin.

But I have carried the people who did them for years. Their voice, their fear, their version of who I am. I thought that was simply damage I would always have.

If there is a door, close it. Sever every connection to those who harmed me. Let their influence over my life end completely.

You heal the brokenhearted and bind up wounds. Do that in me. In the name of Jesus. Amen.

It was never your sin. That does not mean there is nothing to close.